Parts work
You are not one thing. And that's not a problem to solve — it's the key to understanding yourself.
Parts of the self
Internal Family Systems — IFS — is a model of the mind that recognises something most of us sense but rarely have language for: that we contain multitudes. There's the part of you that wants to change, and the part that resists. The part that's angry, and the part that's ashamed of the anger. The inner critic, and the wounded child it's trying to protect.
IFS doesn't see these as contradictions or pathology. It sees them as parts — distinct sub-personalities, each with their own feelings, beliefs, and intentions. And crucially, each with a protective purpose — even the ones that are causing you the most difficulty.
The work is to bring compassionate curiosity to each part, rather than fighting, suppressing, or being overwhelmed by them. When parts feel truly understood and no longer need to carry their burdens alone, something settles.
"Getting curious about a feeling — rather than fighting it — is often the beginning of it beginning to shift."
The core
At the centre of IFS is the Self — an undamaged core within everyone that is naturally calm, curious, compassionate, and wise. It's not something you build — it's something you reconnect with. Therapy creates more access to it.
The protectors
Protective parts work hard to keep you safe — managers by maintaining control, firefighters by reacting fast when pain becomes overwhelming. They're not the enemy; they're exhausted guardians. Once trusted, they can step back.
The hidden
Younger, more vulnerable parts that have been pushed away because their pain felt too much to hold. Exiles carry the original wounds. Healing them — carefully, with Self-energy — is often the deepest work of IFS.
The parts that cause the most difficulty — the critic, the shutdown, the rage — are usually the ones working hardest to protect you. When that becomes real, not just understood intellectually, the internal war starts to quiet.
Self-destructive habits, compulsions, the way you react before you've even decided to — these aren't character flaws. They're parts doing a job they were given a long time ago. Understanding the job changes your relationship to the behaviour.
Most people arrive in therapy with parts they've spent years trying to eliminate. IFS asks something different: not to remove them, but to understand them. That shift — from warfare to curiosity — is often where the deepest relief comes from.
When a part's burden is truly lifted — when an exile feels genuinely understood and no longer alone — it tends to stay lifted. This is different from insight that fades. The change is held in your system, not just in your mind.
IFS sessions have a particular quality of stillness and inward focus. Rather than analysing what happened, we go gently toward the part that's hurting. The experience often surprises people — it can feel almost like an inner conversation.
Nothing about IFS requires you to intellectually "get it" before it works. Often, the most sceptical clients are the ones who find it most unexpectedly moving.
IFS works beautifully alongside somatic therapy — parts are often first detected as physical sensations, not thoughts. And clinical hypnotherapy can support the same inward, receptive quality that IFS relies on. In my practice, these approaches inform each other rather than compete.
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